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Top 5 Things Which?re Holding You Back From Dating The Right Person

By Patricia

Meeting the right person isn’t always easy. The dating game can sometimes seem as complicated as an expert-level game of chess. Frustration arrives when meeting the right partner becomes seemingly impossible. Who is the cause for all these troubles? Sometimes, pointing the finger inward reveals the answer. The dating scene becomes unnecessarily complicated because we make it so. Five diverse issues could be keeping you from meeting the right person.

1.) Looking for the Worst Person

One reason guys and girls can’t find the right partner is due to their actively seeking out the wrong partner. Logic dictates someone who previously went through a bad relationship would look for a much better partner. Sadly, many seek out a new paramour who shares the same traits as the previous one. Psychological factors may lead some to choose a troubled partner for a relationship.

2.) Poor Communications Skills Undermine the First Date

Going out on a first date proves easy for many. The initial courtship abilities don’t seem to be lacking at all. The first date rarely goes well. A second date doesn’t happen. What causes this cycle of dating failure? Any number of reasons may be at the cause. Frequently, the problem derives from doing way too much talking and not enough listening on the first date. People who try to sell themselves to a new partner by way of talking too much create two results. First, they bore their date. Second, they show no interest in the other person. Finding the right person becomes difficult when turning someone off on the first date.

3.) Looking for Someone Too Perfect

No one is perfect. All human beings have their flaws. Trying to find the ideal match becomes impossible when the goal centers on locating an absolutely perfect person. The concept of perfection derives from media creation. Fictitious characters on the movie screen may be perfect. The same can be said of models in magazines. In real life, people are far from perfect. Trying to find the perfect match often proves self-defeating.

4.) Belief the Opposites Attract

People gravitate towards others that share the same interests and beliefs. To click well on a date, two people must share things in common. The notion that opposites attract isn’t usually true. Clashing personalities don’t often make for great relationships. Physical attraction may exist, but it becomes necessary to look past physical features. Something more must exist for the connection to maintain itself. Search for partners with similar interests and passions. People with much in common make for better duos.

5.) Pulling Away from the Dating Scene

People do give up and defeat themselves in the dating world. No, they may not “quit forever,” but they take long breaks from finding someone new. Bouncing back from a bad experience or a series of disappointments isn’t easy. Taking long breaks between attempts to meet someone new isn’t always the best strategy. A lot of good opportunities may pass you by this way. Taking a short break may be a smart move, but avoid quitting and sitting on the sidelines for too long.

Full post as published by The Right Side of Life on August 12, 2018 (boomark / email).