Family Law

Ways to Help Build Your Children's Self-Esteem

By Ben Stevens

Children whose parents divorce sometimes suffer damage to their self-esteem, even when both parents act appropriately.  The following steps can help build children's self-esteem:

• Give your child a sincere compliment when you see him/her doing well or being good.
• Spend time doing things together with your child and let your child choose the activities.
• Ask for, listen to, and consider your child's input on family decisions.
• Don't criticize or belittle the other parent.
• Give your child responsibilities at home so that he/she can contribute and feel competent.
• Teach your child how to do a task correctly, but don't come behind the child and redo what he/she did.
• Share your pride in your child's accomplishments with your friends and do so in front of your child.
• Avoid using derogatory labels when addressing your child, and never call your child any of the following:  stupid, dumb, lazy, clumsy, or crazy.
• Show your love in as many ways as you can - both physically and verbally.
• Teach your child about God's unconditional love.
  

Full post as published by SC Family Law Blog on December 20, 2007 (boomark / email).