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5 things men and women want.

This is pretty accurate, actually. The list for women:

It's been the subject of movies, books and countless conversations: What do women really want? Specifically, what do women want from a mate? We know, guys, that it can seem impossible to guess what women are looking for, but it's really not that complicated.

1. Women Want You to Listen Up
In general, women complain that men don't listen to them. In your defense, you listened to her the first time as well as the 21st time she aired her concern, but she continues to mull it over and discuss some possibilities. She carries on about her overbearing and unfair boss, so you suggest quitting her job.

Guys, admit it: A lot of you are "fixers." You listen to a problem for three minutes before you offer up a suggestion. Why? You want your girlfriend, wife or friend to be happy, so you provide a solution to the problem.

It may seem contradictory, but women don't necessarily want an answer or a solution. They actually want you to act as their sounding board. Instead, listen patiently and let her work through it, offering advice when prompted.

2. Women Want to Be Taken Seriously
The fact that women want to be taken seriously is closely linked to point #1. Not only do women want to be listened to, they want their problems, thoughts and feelings to be taken seriously.

Before you dismiss the idea, consider the fact that maybe your girl does know how to rewire the bathroom or how to organize your investments. Who says that sound advice can't come in a sweet-smelling package? Defer to her opinions and give her ideas a whirl sometime. You just may find that her second opinion is seriously prudent.

3. Women Want to Be Considered When You're Making Plans
Amid the poker games, guys' nights out and work, women want to be considered when you're making plans. (Wouldn't you?) Women don't necessarily need to be THE priority - they just don't want to be an afterthought.

Whether you are a workaholic, gamer, sportsman or couch potato, let your sweetheart in on the action. Sometimes it's easy to let everything else get in the way, but if you make her feel important and needed, she will make you and your needs just as significant as you make her.

4. Women Want to Be Adored
Women love to feel adored. Honored as the most beautiful gal in the room, she wants you to positively love what she is all about. So maybe there are smarter, more attractive or more successful women out there, but to you, she is the bee's knees. Your esteemed ladylove wants to feel that you are fortunate to have her, that you can't keep from beaming when you see her or even that she makes your life better for being in it. Feeling your devotion will only encourage her to reciprocate and feel lucky herself for garnering such a good man.

5. Women Want Acknowledgment and Appreciation
Women want you to acknowledge the things they do for you. They want more than just a pat on the back: They want to be appreciated for their efforts. No matter what her role in your life, whether it's making plans, fixing up the house or booking dream vacations, she wants you to be happy.

Try to meet her halfway with proactive measures or at least offer some sort of recognition or acknowledgment. A little goes a long way with your female counterpart, so take notice and compliment her on her attention to detail.

The list of what men want"

While the old joke goes that what a man's looking for in a woman is a pulse, in reality it's far from true. Like women, men are on the search for very specific qualities and are likely to keep searching until they find them. Although what a man may want and desire of his partner may change during the years, here are 11 basics that should hold true over the generations.

1. Men Want Support
No one wants a sycophant, but a little support with his ideas and his problems can go a long way. If he's taking it in the neck from his boss, let him know how you understand. If he's certain that buying a '57 Chevy is ultimately going to be a sound investment, indulge him. The bottom line is, let him know you're on his side, that you're a team together against the world and all it can throw at you.

2. Men Want Admiration
A distant relative of Support, Admiration will make all his achievements seem a little more worthwhile. If he's climbing the corporate ladder or scoring big with his softball team, let him know that your admiration runs deep and that you're swelling with pride. Take an interest, understand the details, help him celebrate: the further he goes, the closer you'll feel.

3. Men Want Humor
Not for nothing do the personals always list 'GSOH' (Good Sense of Humor) high on the list of qualities men are looking for in a woman. Poets have waxed lyrical about it ('The most wasted of all days is one without laughter' ? ee cummings), entertainers have hailed it, ('Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.' - Victor Borge), and in difficult and good times alike, a couple that laughs together stays together.

4. Men Want Sociability
Just because two have become one it doesn't mean that the one has to sequester itself from the world. Sure, a partner will become his main 'hang', his go-to girl, but he needs feedback from the rest of mankind, and you need to be able to rise to the occasion. He'll want to show you off, admire you as you socialize with ease, know that he can throw you in any social situation ? whether with friends, work colleagues or family - and you'll at least try to go with it.

5. Men Want Freedom
He loves you, he wants to be with you, he needs you ? but you're not glued at the hip and he does have interests outside of the relationship. While a man knows his life with a partner will change forever, it doesn't mean he has to give up everything he enjoyed about his pre-you life. Whether it's a hobby or a passion, let him indulge himself ... and look happy about it too. What makes him happy will ultimately make you happy.

OK, now I really need to get back to my homework. :)

Full post as published by Random Ramblings About Life and Law School on October 04, 2008 (boomark / email).